Sex is a beautiful gift from God that sin often perverts in our culture into something evil. When sexuality is experienced in the boundaries of God’s purpose it is blissful and glorious. However, when sex is perverted and practiced without God’s restraint the results are destructive to one’s spirituality. Though sin is often pleasurable in the moment it always leads to destruction. In other words, what feels good now may cost you your eternal soul. Therefore, I pray this message with both bless you and keep you safe in your sexuality.
Matthew 5:27-30, “27 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”
- Sermon on the Mount: The longest single portion of Jesus’ teaching found in Matthew 5-7 that serves as the foundation of Christian morality and spiritual practice. #KingdomBasics
- Disciples: Born again committed students and followers of Jesus Christ.
- Kingdom of Heaven/God: The active rule and reign of Jesus in one’s life and upon the earth with kingdom blessings. The kingdom is all about the King!
- ADULTERY: To have extramarital sex. For example, a married person “cheating” on their spouse with someone they met at work or online. Biblically speaking, both people involved are considered adulterers, not just the one that is married, Leviticus 20:10.
- OLD TESTAMENT PENALTY FOR ADULTERY: The death penalty was given to both adulterers in the Old Testament. Leviticus 20:10, “If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife— with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.”
- LUST: To desire to have sex with someone you are not married to.
- EXAMPLES OF LUST: Pornography, perverted imaginations, talking dirty, and masturbation.
- CUT OFF: To remove anything in your life that may cause you to sin sexually.
- EXAMPLE OF CUTTING THINGS OFF: (1) Cutting off perverse TV shows, movies, and music. (2) Cutting off friends from social media (like Facebook) who post perverted things. (3) Cutting off places like bars, clubs, and friend’s homes that are perverse. (4) Cutting off unrestrained internet use by putting accountability software on your phone and computer.
STATS & CURRENT SEXUALITY
First Time Sex Stats
1. 6% of teens have had sex by age 15, 30% of those aged 16, nearly half (48%) of those aged 17, 61% of 18-year-olds and 71% of 19-year-olds. (1)
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD’s/STI’s) Stats
1. More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
2. Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD/STI
3. One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD/STI by age 25 (2)
4. The biggest increases are in black, latino, native american and gay communities (3)
1. 42.7 percent of Internet users view porn. The average age of initial pornography exposure is just eleven.
2. One-in-thirteen United States teen girls report participating in group sex, in a study that also links group sex to teens who excessively view pornagraphy.
3. The average age of a first group-sex experience for a United States teen girl is 15.6 years old.
4. The City of Philadelphia has lowered the age for condom distribution to eleven years old, or fifth grade. (4)
- (4) “Great Evangelical Recession,” John Dickerson
5. About 64-68% of young adult men and about 18% of women use porn at least once every week. Another 17% of men and another 30% of women use porn 1-2 times per month. (5)
US Divorce Rate
1. The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
2. The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
3. The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73% (6)
1. 12 percent of men and 7 percent of women — say they have had sex outside their marriage, this results in 1 out 10 marriages suffering from infidelity.
2. The infidelity for men over 60 increased to 28 percent in 2006, up from 20 percent in 1991. For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991.
3. About 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 say they have ever been unfaithful, up from about 15 and 12 percent respectively. (7)
Living Together Before Marriage Stats
1. Between 2006 and 2010, nearly half of heterosexual women (48 percent) ages 15 to 44 said they were not married to their spouse or partner when they first lived with them, the report says. That’s up from 43 percent in 2002, and 34 percent in 1995.
2. And nearly 75 percent of women ages 30 or younger said they’ve lived with a partner outside of marriage (known as cohabiting) at some point in their lives, compared to 70 percent in 2002, and 62 percent in 1995, the report says.
3. The length of time people live together before marriage is increasing, from 13 months in 1995 to 22 months in the 2006 to 2010 survey. (8)
4. A new report released Thursday by Bowling Green State University’s National Center for Marriage and Family Research found that the U.S. marriage rate is 31.1, or 31 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women. For comparison, in 1920, the national marriage rate was 92.3.
5. Meanwhile, the average age at women’s first marriage is 27 years old, its highest point in over a century.
6. In 2011, the Pew Research Center found that 51 percent of Americans were married, compared to 72 percent in 1960. However, rates of cohabiting couples are rising — according to private research company Demographic Intelligence, less than half a million couples were cohabiting in 1960, compared to 7.5 million in 2010. (9)
Child Births Outside of Marriage
1. Calling it “The Great Crossover,” a report by academics and social activists shows that for the first time in history the median age of American women having babies is lower than the median age of marriage – 25.7 and 26.5, respectively.
2. 48% of first births are by unwed mothers, and by age 30 66% of American women have had a child, typically out of wedlock. (10)
3. The proportion of children born to unmarried mothers hit a record 47.5% last year, according to the Office for National Statistics. The figure has risen from 25% in 1988 and just 11% in 1979.
4. If the trend continues at the current rate, the majority of children will be born to parents who are not married by 2016. (11)
- (11) http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/10172627/Most-children-will-be-born-out-of-wedlock-by-2016.html
Fatherless Home Stats
1. One-third of American children are growing up, without their biological father, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.
2. In the past 50 years, the percentage of children who live with two married parents has dropped 22 points. During that same time, the number of babies born to unwed mothers jumped from 5 percent to 40 percent. (12)
- (12) http://www.deseretnews.com/article/700137767/Fatherless-America-A-third-of-children-now-live-without-dad.html?pg=all
Problems in Fatherless Homes
1. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes – 5 times the average.
2. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
3. 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.
4. 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average.
5. 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (13)
1. Over 1 million abortions a year, more than 3,000 a day, and over 50 million since 1973.
2. 85% of all abortions were performed on unmarried women.
3. 22% of US pregnancies end in abortions.
4. Black women are more than 4.8 times more likely than non-Hispanic white women to have an abortion, and Hispanic women are 2.7 times as likely.
5. 37% of women obtaining abortions identify themselves as Protestant, and 28% identify themselves as Catholic.
6. At current rates, nearly one-third of American women will have an abortion. (14)
Homosexuality & Lesbian Stats
1. One study reports that the average homosexual [man] has between 20 and 106 partners per year (6). The average heterosexual has 8 partners in a lifetime.
2. 43% of white male homosexuals had sex with 500 or more partners.
3. 78% of homosexuals are affected by STDs (15)
4. 2% of U.S. population is gay yet it accounts for 61% of HIV infection
5. The incidence of domestic violence among gay men is nearly double that in the heterosexual population
5. Slightly more than half of the [lesbians] reported that they had been abused by a female lover/partner. (16)
6. Children raised by a lesbian mother were 10 times more likely to have been “touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver” (23% reported this, vs. only 2% for children of married biological parents), while those raised by a homosexual father were 3 times more likely (reported by 6%).
7. As to the question of whether you have “ever been physically forced” to have sex against your will (not necessarily in childhood), affirmative answers came from 8% of children of married biological parents, 31% of children of lesbian mothers (nearly 4 times as many), and 25% of the children of homosexual fathers (3 times as many).
8. Both Gay & Lesbian
- Are much more likely to have received welfare
- Have lower educational attainment
- Report less safety and security in their family of origin
- Report more ongoing “negative impact” from their family of origin
- Are more likely to suffer from depression
- Have been arrested more often
- If they are female, have had more sexual partners–both male and female
9. Lesbian homes
- Are almost 4 times more likely to be currently on public assistance
- Are less likely to be currently employed full-time
- Are more than 3 times more likely to be unemployed
- Are nearly 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual
- Are 3 times as likely to have had an affair while married or cohabiting
- Are an astonishing 10 times more likely to have been “touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver.”
- Are nearly 4 times as likely to have been “physically forced” to have sex against their will
- Are more likely to have “attachment” problems related to the ability to depend on others
- Use marijuana more frequently
- Smoke more frequently
- Watch TV for long periods more frequently
- Have more often pled guilty to a non-minor offense (17)
Summary of All of the Stats
In the US we have committed the following sins because we have refused to obey Jesus’ simple command of “one man and one woman” living in committed godly marriage:
- Perversion & Fornication // Sex outside of marriage, promiscuity, & orgies, Galatians 5:19.
- Sensuality // Viewing of pornography, Galatians 5:19 (NASB).
- Self-Infliction // STD’s & STI’s, 1 Corinthians 6:18-19.
- Immortality // Raising families without godly marriages, Galatians 5:19.
- Adultery // Increased affairs, Matthew 5:19.
- Homosexuality // Destructive lifestyle of homosexuality and lesbianism, Romans 1:26-32, 1 Timothy 1:10, & 1 Corinthians 6:9.
- Child Abuse // The harm that children suffer because of broken families, Mark 9:42 & 1 Timothy 5:8.
- Murder // The abortion infanticide, Psalm 22:10, Matthew 19:14, & Romans 1:29.
- As well as; selfish ambition, pride, rebellion, greed, suicide, and dishonesty.
- Guard your heart from lust, pornography, and perversion, Proverbs 4:23.
- Remain a virgin until marriage, Mark 10:7.
- Fall in love God’s way, 1 Corinthians 7:9 & Song of Solomon.
- Remain faithful to your spouse until death do you part, Hebrews 13:4.
- Raise your family with the teachings of Christ so they can repeat the good example before them, Ephesians 6:4.
- Remove perversion from your heart and hide God’s Word in your heart, Psalm 119:11,37.
- Stay in love with Jesus and your spouse, Ephesians 6:24!
John 8:3-11, “3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.
7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. 9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”